Over 5 months after our first meeting at the German registry office, my German fiancé and I went back again today to officially register our marriage!

Getting married in Germany: registering a marriage

As I wrote in my previous post about getting married in Germany, we had to collect the following documents on our own:

✓ Foreign birth certificate with name of parents [with Apostille] & German translation (me)
✓ Copy from the birth register (German fiancé)
✓ Copy of passport
✓ Proof of income

Ordering the birth certificate, getting an Apostille for it, and then getting it all translated took the most time, but it was all relatively painless. At our appointment at the registry office, our case worker then put it all together to send to the regional court (Oberlandesgericht), and everything seemed to be going just fine. The problem came when he asked us about changing our names.

Originally, I wanted to change my middle name to my maiden name, and take my fiancé’s last name. Theoretically, this is possible. The only problem is that according to all of my German documents, my current middle name is actually name second first name. And you cannot get rid of your second first name when marrying.

actual GIF of my German fiancé and me when the case worker told us this nonsense

So, now I have the following options:

  1. Keep my name as it is (that is what I am registered for currently)
  2. Just change my last name
  3. Have two middle names (my current middle name + my maiden name)
  4. Stick to my original plan by finding a way to prove that my middle name is NOT a second first name

It’s not a easy decision, and I have to decide fast. Yikes!

At the end of our appointment, and after signing at least 5 different papers (are you sure you were never married before? are you sure you don’t have any children? are you sure you are legally allowed to marry?), we got hit with the bill.

Marco and I originally thought that the only fee came from the regional court. We were wrong. For the registration of the marriage we paid a total of 127.00€.

Here is the breakdown of fees:

Fees for getting married in Germany to a foreigner

  • Postage – 4€
  • Acceptance of an oath – 25€
  • Examination of the marriage requirements, foreign law – 80€
  • 2x Registration certificate – 18€
Total: 127€

The other part of the bill will come after the regional court has approved our marriage registration. This fee is income-based, and since I am a student and my fiancé has a modest income, our case worker told us that the fee will definitely not be the maximum amount, which is around 500€.

Now on to the exciting part: we set our wedding date and location! Our city offers several beautiful, historic locations where couples can get married. One of these is the historic water tower, where couples can get married on Fridays. So, we will be getting married on Friday, December 30, 2016 in the Lüneburg Water Tower!