I am sick and tired of people (i.e. Germans) getting my name wrong. I know I have written about this topic before, but it needs to be said again.

After doing a quick search through my inbox for “Herr Courtney,” I gathered this small sample of emails that I have received from people who assumed that:
1) I am a man and/or
2) Courtney is my last name.

And that’s not all of them. Even my doctor thinks that my first name is Martin, but since he also has possession of my medical records, he (thankfully) does not make the mistake of calling me “Herr.” Instead, I am “Frau Courtney” at his office, which doesn’t really bother me.
After getting this so often, however, I have decided to begin shaming the people that write these emails to me. For example, one of the emails above was from a woman that had just written up my new work contract, and she was emailing me to let me know that I could come to her office to sign it. Since she just wrote my name on the contract, I really felt like she should have known better than to write my name wrong in an email.
So, I replied:

“My name is Frau Martin, not Herr Courtney. My first name is Courtney, and my last name is Martin. Please make sure that the correct name is on the contract before I come in to sign it.”

A few minutes later, I received my reply:

das habe ich gerade bemerkt, als ich den Arbeitsvertrag in die Unterschriftsmappe legen wollte. Entschuldigen Sie bitte, das ich so unaufmerksam war.

[I just noticed that as I was placing the contract in the folder. Please excuse me for being so unobservant.]

To which I replied:

“Yeah, you were unobservant, and although my initial response may have not sounded so nice, you should be thankful that I didn’t go all Breaking Bad on you until you said my name correctly!”

Okay, okay. I didn’t really write that, but I wanted to.


Come on, Germans! Learn my name! 

Are there any other expats out there with name troubles?